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Depression in the Age of Conspicuous Positivity

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René Brooks explores how to share authentic experiences about depression online in an era of "good vibes" and positivity culture.

Once upon a time, I worked as a door-to-door saleswoman. The hours were long and the pay was commission only. I spent a lot of time away from my family, and slowly, my co-workers became my only friends.

Sounds pretty crappy, huh? Well, it was.

We covered up the negativity of the job with the “morning meeting,” a hand-clapping, song-singing extravaganza where we celebrated everyone’s sales from the day before, after which we’d be coached through new sales techniques.

The main focus of those meetings was to encourage us to stay positive, and by positive, I mean not talking about the realities of the job. Topics like the frustration of missing a paycheck or the anxiety when you weren’t selling weren’t up for discussion.

Today the word “positive” still holds strange connotations for me. That experience taught me how terrible it can be when you mask your true feelings under a veneer of false happiness in the name of positivity.

Don’t get me wrong. I think there’s true power in thinking good things. Avoiding thinking about the bad things that could happen to me has been extremely helpful in my mental health journey.

The downfall of this positivity movement, however, is how steeped in denial it so often is.

Being honest with ourselves

We all see the perfectly curated images on social media, where it appears everyone is happy, grateful, and has no problems. It’s considered taboo to talk about your real problems on social media. It’s the electronic equivalent of airing your dirty laundry. To me, this lack of honesty is setting ourselves up for failure.

We teach people that if they’re suffering, it’s because of their negative thoughts, not their genuine issues with depression that they need to work through. This is the true challenge in this positive, “good vibes only” society we live in.

When we reduce someone’s problems to a simple “think positive thoughts,” this condemns people to sit in isolation.

They feel like they’re broken. They think that if they could just learn to think more positively, that they’ll be magically healed. When they’re not, they feel as though they’re bad or doing something wrong.

How this affects people with depression

This isn’t how people who are already depressed should feel.

When you’re told that your condition is because of your mindset, not an actual mental health condition, you stop working on your actual issues. Instead, you may cover up your depression or anxiety with mantras, visualization, and denial. Those things may have the power to help, but there is potential for them to become problematic.

Instead of positivity culture, I would like to see a movement toward honesty. I want to be able to tell someone about my depression without them trying to tell me about all of the good things in my life that I should be grateful for. I am grateful for them.

I also know that despite all of the wonderful things that are going on in my life, sometimes I will still feel depressed. That’s what it means to live with major depression.

I’ve posted about some of my biggest accomplishments on social media right before I cried myself to sleep. That’s the reality of the situation.

When you’re surrounded by people who only ever admit to “living their best lives,” it sets you up to compare your life to theirs. Often times, we end up feeling like our lives are lacking in certain areas.

It’s easy to then feel like you’re the only person who is going through something negative, and feel like that makes you a failure. You may feel like someone who can’t get it together, or someone who is so steeped in negativity that you must be untouchable. Or, you may feel like a person who the world would be better off without.

These are not safe thoughts for a person living with depression. They mimic the thoughts that we already have and don’t need amplified.

The bottom line

Positive vibes aren’t a substitute for proper mental health treatment. Positive vibes aren’t a substitute for facing your real fears. Positive vibes aren’t a substitute for real friends who will support you whether you’re depressed or feeling on top of the world.

I have made it my mission to post about what I’m really going through on social media, and not feed into this culture of false positivity. I hope that you are able to do the same.

The information presented is solely for educational purposes, not as specific advice for the evaluation, management, or treatment of any condition.

The individual(s) who have written and created the content in and whose images appear in this article have been paid by Teva Pharmaceuticals for their contributions. This content represents the opinions of the contributor and does not necessarily reflect those of Teva Pharmaceuticals. Similarly, Teva Pharmaceuticals does not review, control, influence or endorse any content related to the contributor's websites or social media networks. This content is intended for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered medical advice or recommendations. Consult a qualified medical professional for diagnosis and before beginning or changing any treatment regimen. 

NPS-ALL-NP-00991 JUNE 2023

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