In a world where we're always online and always available, many of us still feel lonely. Today, Sarah Bailey looks at the difference between “loneliness” and “solitude” and how the loneliness epidemic may affect us today more than ever. She also shares some simple ways to help us start connecting again (with and without technology).

These days, we live in a world where we are constantly connected 24/7 through social media, instant messaging, and video calls. Yet many of us are silently battling through the loneliness epidemic – deep, pervasive feelings of loneliness, especially in a world where "connection" is only a click away.

Almost everyone has felt the ache of being alone, even in the most crowded places. As we doom-scroll through a social media feed of perfect smiles and homes, it's easy to feel like we're on the outside looking in.

It's perhaps one of the greatest ironies of our time that, despite being more digitally connected than ever, many of us still suffer from loneliness.

Redefining the idea of loneliness

In times past, we've often framed loneliness as a problem of old age – with people who may be less mobile, less visible, and imagined to be quietly fading into the background.

However, as we are coming to realize, this definition of loneliness isn't the only one. Loneliness doesn't discriminate; people of all ages and from all walks of life can experience it. It's also more than a passing feeling of FOMO on a rare Friday evening with no plans. Studies have linked chronic loneliness to a series of health issues, such as heart disease, strokes, depression, anxiety, and even type 2 diabetes.

The first step in combating loneliness is coming to understand it.

Loneliness vs. being alone

The first thing to understand is the difference between "being alone" and "feeling lonely."

Being alone (i.e., choosing solitude) can be restorative, peaceful, and, at times, even joyful. It can be that quiet moment at the start of the day when you're not talking to anyone, answering messages, or crossing off items on your to-do list. You're sitting with a cup of coffee and letting yourself just be. It can also be that moment in bed as you snuggle up and read. It can be on a solitary walk or time working on a one-person hobby.

On the other hand, loneliness is something completely different. It is an aching feeling of being unseen, unheard, and disconnected. You can feel lonely when surrounded by people you love and who love you in return.

In moderation, choosing to be alone can be empowering. Even the most extroverted among us need time to recalibrate and explore their creativity without the outside pushing in.

Loneliness, however, is more a cage than a choice. It’s not about isolation – you can have family, friends, a whole network of people, and still feel… alone.

Have you ever been on a course or at an event where the vibes are off, even if everyone seems perfectly nice? I remember times when I've sat in rooms full of people, and my feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. How can there be so many people around me and not one who I feel connected to?

Why we feel so alone

So why, in an age when constant notifications and online interactions surround us, is the loneliness epidemic even a thing?

How can we still feel so alone?

We rate our interactions by quantity rather than quality

A key reason behind the loneliness epidemic is the growing lack of genuine connection. It's easy to "heart" a friend's photo or drop a quick one-word comment (or even just an emoji) as we spend an evening scrolling through social media.

Likewise, social media has taught us that the quantity of likes and comments we receive has more value than the quality. Each validating "like" we receive or video we watch may spark a second of joy. But no metric replaces the real, meaningful connection of talking about things that matter with those who matter to you.

On top of that, we live in a world where life can feel like it is both standing still and moving too fast at the same time. Many of us are working from home and/or living alone. Some life changes can quickly contribute to feelings of isolation and loneliness, such as moving to a new area or experiencing the loss of a loved one.

Our “online versions” of ourselves are curated for the public

And not forgetting that, for the most part, we only share our best selves and moments online. It can easily start to feel like everyone is thriving but you.

I live with chronic illnesses that leave me at home 99% of the time. In fact, most of the times I've been out of the house this year have included a visit to my doctor or the hospital. At home or in the waiting room, it's easy to get caught up in pictures of beautiful people on vacations or in gorgeous, uncluttered homes.

Even less "polished" photos of families enjoying time at the park can cause a pang of longing.

It can feel like that will never be my life.

Just typing it, I can feel a sense of sadness, isolation, and loneliness starting to set in.

7 ways to connect with someone new

The hardest thing to do when you're feeling low is to reach out. However, reaching out is the best thing to help yourself feel connected again – remember that small steps can lead to real change.

If you're looking for ways to connect with others who truly "get" you, here are a few ideas:

1. Find those in a similar situation

As a blogger, I work from home on my laptop, and I wouldn't get through the day without my friends who also have remote jobs. Some days are filled with friendly chatter about nothing, while on other days, we cheer each other on and become accountability buddies.

2. Join a local hobby group

You might be surprised by the variety of hobby groups available in your area. If you can't find quite the right one and feel brave enough, why not start one yourself?

3. Sign up for a class

Learning in a group setting is a fantastic way to build connections and stay motivated. Many local colleges offer a variety of classes for all age groups. Community centers are also great places to discover new opportunities and ideas.

4. Try group exercise

Gyms, walking clubs, or yoga classes can offer gentle social opportunities while boosting your mental health.

5. Look for online support groups

Online support groups can be great for sharing experiences and finding like-minded people. However, not all groups are created equal. Some can become echo chambers for negativity or toxic ideas that hold you back rather than help you grow.

So, if a particular group catches your eye, try being a “lurker” for a couple of days before contributing. Get a sense of how members interact with each other and assess whether you feel comfortable. The aim is to find groups that encourage a positive mindset and progress rather than ones that could bring you down.

6. Volunteer your skills or your time

One of the things I will never regret doing when I was struggling with loneliness in my early twenties was volunteering. I learned some amazing skills and had some incredible experiences – it’s a time I'll never forget.

But for the shy or socially anxious among us, the thought of meeting a whole team of new people all at once can be daunting. If that sounds familiar, start small. Look for gentle ways to become part of your community, such as visiting the same café every week or saying hello to your neighbors. Just being present and becoming a familiar face can build a sense of belonging over time.

7. Small acts of kindness

Sometimes, the fastest way to feel connected is to be the connection someone else might need. Saying thanks to your cashier, holding the door open, or smiling at someone as you pass them on the street are good examples without going overboard. They might seem like nothing, but small gestures can mean a lot to someone else.

And here's the magic: those small acts of kindness can help you as well. Small acts of kindness can remind us that we belong to a wider world beyond our immediate circles.

Final thoughts

If you're feeling lonely, know this: you're not broken or a failure. You're human, and humans are wired to find connection and companionship. It might take time, and it might feel uncomfortable at first, but you are not alone in feeling alone.

Reach out. Be gentle with yourself. And remember – even the tiniest thread of connection can help you find happiness and feel understood.

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